Playing the Notes

Lately I've started all kinds of things and been many times in situations that I haven't faced before. New situations always cause a tension of somekind, because it requires crossing the lines of your comfort zone. Comfort zone is the behavioral patterns, hobbies, places etc. where you've been a lot and they are familiar and you know how to act. It is easy to feel like a prey in a place that's not familiar as everybody else has an agenda they fullfil-or so it seems.

New thing always means challenge, escspecially when it includes getting in to a group that has been formed before you came across. People tend to keep walls up high towards new comers, some higher, some lower but they always excist as there's a need to evaluate the person. Girls do this very "openly" and they usually put their attitude on show. I think this is because of fear, as a new girl in a group can always mean competition. What I have found to be very usefull is just not competing with them. No one can play games with you if you don't play the game. Dropping all attitudes when getting into a new social network takes you far! And whoa what realizing this has brought to me!

People make judgements by cover, and this, I think, is because of the fear of unknown. It is rather funny to hear girls (and guys too!!) making comments like "what is she trying to do etc." After I started trying to eliminate all these kinds of acts out of my own social behaviour, wearing an open attitude and simply smiling more it's been great to notice that more and more great people have started marching into my life. And it is so simple! I'm not saying that I take a new person under my skin, that's just stupid. But I try to see other people's point of view and not being judgemental. Still keeping my own values- but I realize it is not taken away from me if somebody else is not exactly like me.